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Ways to fixing the adverse effect of technology (mobile devices) on our relationships

Unarguably, technology has affected relationships adversely and those who were not patient enough to figure things out have had to end their relationships.

It would also interest you to know that asides romantic relationships, technology has affected relationships between family members, friends, acquaintances, co-workers and the likes. To fix this mess, it is crucial to strike a balance between using technology and maintaining our relationships.

Below are ways to fix the negative effects of technology

Effective Communication

No one likes discussing with someone whose mind is not in the conversation. When you are having interactions with people, it is vital to put away distractions for that moment. Discussions cannot last forever and what you are doing on your devices can wait except if it is very urgent.

In that case, you can take permission from the person you are discussing to either postpone the discussion or give you some minutes to complete your task.

Setting priorities with technology use

If you discover that your partner or friends always complain about how you use the internet or your phone in general, it is necessary not to ignore these complaints. You should not overlook this because if everyone is complaining about the same thing, then you need to make corrections.

To help yourself, you can set a strict schedule for yourself when you attend to other tasks without the intrusion of technology use. This would help you to be productive in other areas of your life.

Prioritize talking time with your romantic partner

If you are physically or virtually present with your partner, you need to show them enough respect by limiting your technology use for that moment. Your partner needs to know that you value them enough to hold conversations without being distracted by any external factor.

One of the ways to prevent conflicts in relationships is to avoid doing things that are conventionally not right. Using technology the right way averts relationship issues.

How technology affected our relationships

Technology has affected all aspects of our lives positively and negatively. For our relationships, there are positive and negative effects that technology has on it. The fact is, there is no definite answer as to if technology has affected our relationships positively or negatively because there are two sides to it.  

Positive effects of technology on relationships

Better offline interaction

As against the conventional saying that technology destroys offline interaction, it has made communication easier for several people. These days, people become close pals online before they meet offline, and it helps foster a better communication because they have interacted quite intimately online.

Better relationships

Good online activity and interaction breeds better relationships. People discuss all sorts of things like education, marital lives, views on recent happenings and others. Hence, it is easy to find people who have similar interests as yours. And when you meet in realty, it becomes easier to bond than before.

Keeps communication with old friends alive

If you have lost contact with some old friends, you can link up with them online. All you need do is search them out with their names, or contact them through mutual friends.

Negative effects of technology on relationships

Decline in intimacy

Intimate relationships come with their difficulties and with the change in technologies, it can infuse more strain in modern relationships. Sometimes, the way individuals use technology can cause problems between them and their partners, which causes conflict in the relationship.


If one is not careful, you will discover that technology can distract you in essential aspects of your life, with relationship not being an exception. Some partners often complain of the way their partners use their devices when they are around them. It is even worse for people who are addicted because they would not know how to manage their attention.


Using the social media/technology for too long has been shown to adversely affect mental health. Dating a depressed partner for instance, can stress the relationship because it would be difficult to trace the source of the depression.

Five Danger Signs Of Tobacco Use

Some may have recently picked up the harmful habit – while others may be veterans of chewing. Either way, negative effects can take place in a short amount of time – or vice versa. That’s why it’s important to be on the lookout for certain warning signs – since the consequences can differ from person to person. In fact, no one body is the same – or reacts the same for that matter – but being mindful of the danger signs that come with this smokeless substance serves as a place to start. 

In turn, there are five being, “a sore in your mouth that bleeds easily and doesn’t heal, a lump or thickening anywhere in the mouth or neck, any soreness or swelling in your mouth that doesn’t go away, a red or white patch in your mouth that doesn’t go away; difficulty chewing, swallowing, or moving your tongue or jaw.” Through these signs comes the danger of something more if the addict isn’t careful; that’s why consulting a medical professional is crucial because the person could be undergoing early stages of cancer. 

Not only that, but these signs shouldn’t be dismissed – or swept underneath the rug; as a result, it’s crucial that they aren’t ignored because of their severity. But even so, some people will try and bare through the pain that they feel – and/or disregard it. In fact, one dip of chewing tobacco – being left in a person’s mouth to sit – is the equivalent of smoking multiple cigarettes. The reasoning behind this is because of the insane amount of nicotine that chewing tobacco carries versus cigarettes; some may even engage in this pastime while scrolling through their phone because doing so can induce a large amount of anxiety and/or FOMO (fear of missing out).

Other drugs may not cause direct pain – right away at least – but this is where chewing tobacco differs; for one might not see what is taking place – within his/her liver – as he/she drinks. The same goes for those who use drugs because the damage might not be evident at first after the high is over. But with chewing tobacco, there is a direct pain on the mouth that’s unpleasant – making it hard to ignore. Yet, some still choose to do so – despite the signs – until what once seemed like a small issue, turns into a much bigger one. 

In conclusion, it’s important to always be on the lookout for warning signs in those close to you – and even in yourself, if you struggle to overcome addiction. In doing so, you can seek help before it’s too late – but if not, you could risk developing lifelong health issues. Although withdrawal symptoms may cause discomfort – the end result will be well worth when you find yourself drug-free.

Technology & The Inevitable

iPhone, android, tablet, laptop, television, along with several other forms of technology tend to infiltrate our modern day world, as millions put them to use. But, while these particular individuals spend much of their time consumed by such, others prefer a more simple approach. For, there are some who may find themselves purposefully avoiding the technology that surrounds them, but for others these many devices may pose as inevitable. In turn, several factors play a key role in a user’s rate of consumption, the main ones being career and education.

First and foremost is career, which holds a broad range of positions, depending on the person’s area of expertise-and/or their field of interest. It is with such that these individuals may be exposed to technology at high, low, and/or moderate levels. In turn, some may not have a choice in the matter because they are subject to technology through business meetings and interviews-which may take place through conference and/or video call. It is through such that they have limited access interacting with the person face to face, but are instead only able to see them through a small pixelated square.

Second is education in which college students are thrown into an abundant amount of technology whether it be through having to do research-and/or surf the web-for information, and/or in order to enroll in online classes. Not only that, but oftentimes these individuals don’t even have to be registered online to still need access to the internet. For, many sources of information for them may come from their school website-such as; grades, homework, financial aid information, account balance, registration, and/or even meal plans/living arrangements. It is with all of these that students are placed in a position where they are forced to have access to the internet, whether it be through their school library, or via their laptop/desktop at home.

In conclusion, one must be careful when they are placed in an environment-and/or situation-in which there is very little use of pen and paper, and instead an excessive amount of use of the internet-along with other technological devices. It is through such that one who has made very little use of media platforms-and/or outlets-in the past, can suddenly find themselves fully consumed by it outside of their place of business, and/or school. That’s why it is of extreme importance that one takes the time out to engage and/or interact with other people and things outside of the technology realm, so that they are developing themselves within the real world, rather than behind a screen.

Value on Personal Relationships Decreases

human interaction disconnectAs we clamor after the latest technologies, we lose site of what matters most in life, which is relationships. It has been observed in recent years that relationship inabilities are rising as access to technology is increasing. This has disastrous consequences for humanity. A civilization that does not know how to properly value personal relationships is an unhealthy one and should rethink itself.

When technology began to replace people in the workplace, personal relationships began to decrease in importance. Beginning with the industrial revolution and leading all the way up until the present time, technology has increasingly become more of a presence in the workplace. A trend that is just beginning now, however, is that technology is actually taking jobs away from people. In the past, the ongoing production of technology kept people working, but technology has become smart to the point of needing less human oversight, which is hurting our job market.

When people began thinking of technology as a means of socializing and replacing in-person connections with socializing through technology, the collective value on personal relationships began to decrease. When people begin to feel more comfortable with socializing through the medium of technology rather than in person, or worse yet, feel closer to the technology that enables their socializing than they feel toward the person they are socializing with, they have reached a place of mental unhealthiness.

We are losing our ability to connect with one another due to our obsession with connecting with technology. It is causing fragmentation within our society. Our broken connections lead to antisocial behavior, bullying, isolation, addiction problems, sociopathic behavior, narcissism and generally self-focused behavior. If we want to strengthen the things that make our lives, our culture and our overall condition of a high quality, we have to begin to practice moderation when it comes to technology. The worshipful behavior we have exhibited over it is a social sickness.

The Value on Personal Technology Increases

personal technology infatuationIt is a well known fact that we are something of a technology obsessed culture. The role that technology has come to play in our lives is so much more significant than it was through most of human history. Not just because technology is so much more advanced than it used to be, but also because it means more to us than it used to.  Where before, technology was merely a tool, it is now what facilitates many of our personal relationships. Our televisions and streaming devices put us in touch with fictional and non-fictional characters and personas that we come to think of as buddies. Technology carries more personal meaning to us than it ever did in the past, and our focus on it has become obvious.

This can be observed largely by how much we are willing to invest in our technologies. Our time, money and energy is given in large quantities to the upkeep of our technology. We spend precious seconds, minutes and hours researching, acquiring, assembling and using our technology. We save and subsequently spend astronomical amounts of money in order to invest financially into our technologies. And most critically, we spend reserves of our energy and even emotion on our technology. The concept of entropy is very applicable to this situation. We value technology so highly because we feel that it makes our lives so much easier when in fact, the peripheral chaos that technology creates makes our lives more challenging.

Many studies done by economists, social scientists, cultural anthropologists and mental health professionals have observed that the value people put on their technology, personally, financially and otherwise, has increased greatly in recent years and will continue to do so as we move forward. Technology can be a blessing and a curse, and it is advisable to reconsider the value you put on technology in order to correctly prioritize it.

Relationship with Technology vs Human Contact

human contact devaluedWe are in an age when technology reigns supreme. We rely on technology to function more and more every day, as technology increases in intelligence and as we grow more and more accustomed to having it available to us. This relationship we are developing with technology has benefits, but has also been found to have many detriments. There is a great deal of question over what our relationship to technology is doing to us psychologically. Humanity is evolving from a species that interacted to do manual work to a species that retreats to isolation and relies on technology to do work for it. One of mankind’s ways of life that has suffered most drastically because of this is our everyday human contact.

The insurgence of technology that has been the recent condition of humanity has initiated a strange phenomenon. Technology has begun to replace the in-person presence of humans, both in the workplace and in our social spheres. This is concerning for a number of reasons, primarily that technology is replacing humans in the work place despite a growing need for continued job creation, and because antisocial conditions are a serious mental health threat. Economists and job market experts have observed that, despite a growing global population, job creation is occurring much slower than population growth due to how many jobs are being taken from humans and given to technology. Social scientists have observed a connection between the increase in technology and the increase in antisocial disorders, such as narcissism, sociopathic tendencies and chronic shyness.

Our over-reliance on technology is becoming commonplace, but it warrants caution and should be personally moderated by every individual. It is leading us to interact with technology more than interact with other people, which ultimately damages our sense of what human relationships are. Technology is not evil. It is necessary, progressive and life-saving. But like everything else in life, if it is used in excess, it becomes harmful.

Disconnected Relationships

disconnected relationshipNorth American society is indisputably fractured in some ways. Gun violence, divorce rates and mental illness are at an all time high. The ability to co-exist and resolve conflicts, which are basic human relationship skills, are not present like they should be within a healthy society. There are many possible reasons for this dysfunctional behavior, not the least of which is technology and what effect it has had on society as a whole. Albert Einstein said, “I fear the day technology will surpass our human interaction. The world will have a generation of idiots.” Some believe this condition is already upon us.

The emergence of technology came with the ideal that we would come closer together as a species through technology. Not only would we come to understand truths together, we would be more connected and enabled to communicate. While these were noble ideals, an equal and opposite reaction has been observed in North American society since digital technology emerged. Instead of closer relationships, technology has divided us. Where there used to be an in-person conversation, complete with non-verbal signals, facial expressions and deeply personal communication, we have become philosophically removed from one another by channeling our interactions through technology. No one anticipated that communication through technology would become preferred to in-person communication, but it largely has.

Could it be that the introduction of communication technology has contributed to the fracturing of North American social consciousness? Is it possible that mediating our communication through devices has made communication impersonal, and thus made us more anti-social and narcissistic? The weight of mental illness and violence is certainly not entirely on communication technology, but social scientists and psychologist alike have claimed that it contributes to individualism in a large way, in a time when social thinking is very important. The best thing we can do as a society to reverse this trend is to think critically about our relationship with technology, put limits on it and remember how to prioritize our in-person relationships for the sake of humanity.